Talk to any groom about his upcoming wedding day and you’ll get a whole bunch of reactions:
Happiness, joy, excitement, expectancy and fear.
Yes, fear – fear of having to get up in front of possibly hundreds of people and give a speech. For most of us, public speaking is one of the greatest phobias out there.
Indeed, according to recent American surveys – the fear of public speaking ranks up there with fear of illness, terrorism, flying and even death! No wonder our poor man is apprehensive about giving his groom speech!
I used to be a bag of nerves when I had to give speeches at school – even in front of a class of 25 I was a wreck every time we had to speak publicly. In fact, one day I even collapsed while trying to battle my way through a speech. I was a laughing stock of the class and I hated myself for it.
If you are reading this, you’re probably in the same boat as I was – you can’t wait to get married and share in all the joy and happiness of the big day, but really, you’d prefer to be somewhere else when it comes time for the speeches. Trust me, I do sympathize.
Probably the biggest thing that will start you on the road to being able to give a great speech is to realize one thing:
Most people these days have to give presentations at work – dull, boring lectures almost and we know how tiresome they can be to sit through sometimes. Especially if the topic is something that we aren’t really interested in hearing.
Read that last sentence again. Notice anything that stands out?
The topic of your speech is going to be your beautiful bride, the love of your life, the woman who is marrying you. What better topic could there be to talk about than the person you love?
Don’t worry about having the “World’s Greatest Groom Speech Ever”, just talk about all the things you love about your wife. Trust me, she will adore hearing you tell her how much you love her and how beautiful she will look.
A few simple steps and you’ll be confident in giving your groom speech in no time.
No one at your wedding is going to be judging you on your speech. Often brides, and grooms, will break down and cry during the ceremony – no one points and laughs at them for doing so. If you a worried about something like that happening then don’t be – everyone in the room is on your side.
It’s good to have notes, but they can be a crutch – try and speak from the heart. Your speech will sound better and will be more engaging if you let your words come from the heart directly. Try having a few key notes on a card to give you direction, rather than read your whole speech from a sheet of paper.
Just be yourself. Don’t try and be something you are not.
If you’re not funny, then don’t try to have a funny speech – if you are funny, then don’t be deadly serious. If you speak how you would normally speak, then your speech will be far more natural and easy flowing.
No one cares if you make a mistake. If something goes wrong during your speech, it’d not the end of the world, just laugh it off and carry on. I once called Mahatma Ghandi a despot during a school speech. Mistakes happen, don’t let them effect you.
Don’t think that getting drunk will help you make your speech better. One drink may calm the nerves a bit, but getting drunk before making your speech is a recipe for disaster – don’t do it.
If you follow these 5 steps, you’ll be well on your way to being more comfortable about making your groom speech.
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